Many people talk about “love” But what is love meaning? Love is an intense feeling of deep affection, a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. Why when love brakes it brings bitterness and pain? I discovered that if you have someone love you before you loving your self, many things may happening including killing yourself. Many people do not know how to love themselves.
There are many ways to love and care for yourself. The possibilities are infinite. One way to learn or to love your self is to act as you already do “you must fake it till you make it” First love your body by eating healthy food and exercise regularly, treat your self to things like massage, a pedicure or gym membership. Take breaks and having fun as well whether alone, with your friend, or with a partner. Go out for a nice dinner, go dancing or attend concert. If you are more saver than spender then perhaps it is time to take as well expense example eat dinner at home by candlelight, take a walk on beach, swim in the ocean or watch sunset. Perhaps you taking time to paint or write but just put your imagination to work.
Another way to love your self or self-esteem is to be aware of your self-talk, I am meaning those thing that you say to your self inside your head or your heart, soul or mind. If eyes talk, hand shake, legs walk there fore mind, head, soul, and heat speaking or shouting or talk. You can speak to your self in ways that are more kind, many of us have very hash inner critics when we make a mistake, this critical voice inside our head, heat or soul beat up on us, saying things such as “That was so stupid” …. I cant do anything right …. I loose bus what a loser” We need to replace this negative message with other, more positive ones “ I made a mistake that’s okay that is how I learn, I’ll know better the next time” With awareness overtime you can catch your self, when your self – talk is negative, and change the message to something more positive and “critics”
Don’t just catch yourself wrong, catch yourself being right. In other words, don’t catch the voice of your inner critic, and stop it from beating up on you. When you do something well, or when find you talk positive sentence say right thing to your self be sure to reward your self. Acknowledge your self verbally, give your self the part of the back, or treat your self to some thing special or you can learn to love your self by being in the practice of using positive affirmation. Take sometimes to come up with qualities that you most want to embody. Choose about two or three to focus on for any one period of time. Then try for at least a monthly. Repeat those qualities daily, telling your self that your thing already. Whatever or not you current believe it, say it anyway … again. Take time to tell your self each day, “I am happy and successfully or I am beautiful and bright” or “ I love my body, I feel health and in balance” or “ I am worth and love, I am powerfully and self confidant, I am champion and rich, I am big journalist in Tanzania” What ever qualities you wish to be. You may want to write out those affirmations and post them some place where you will see them regularly, on the bathroom or bedroom, on the mirror, on the refrigerator door, by the clock on your bedroom, a top of your computer monitor, By repeating and reading these phrases you may find you grow into and become these qualities. You may even realize that embodied them all along; you just had not realized it. If you keep giving to others without to giving to your self it’s like pouring water from a versel. If you poor and poor without ever refilling it, eventually it will run dry.
The answer is by loving and giving ourselves, first. Love your self , be good to your self , treat your self well , replenish your self you will discover that, the more you love your self, the more you will be able to love others, and the more others will want to around you and give back to you. This is a win win situation. Loving your self will ultimately benefit the lives of others you encounter, as well as your own life
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